The “Toltec agreements” are a set of laws aimed at living in a simpler way and in harmony in order to achieve personal freedom. Highlighted by Miguel Ruiz in a book entitled “The Four Toltec Agreements”, these laws form a true philosophy of life.
It is with his book called “The Four Toltec Agreements” that Miguel Ruiz became known throughout the world. With his book published in 1997 in the USA, the Mexican, shaman and teacher opened the way for personal development and provided some avenues for achieving personal freedom. Indeed, while social relations are seen more and more abused and that societal ills are growing, Miguel Ruiz highlighted several axes allowing to free oneself from certain unnecessary suffering. Thus, through four precepts, which he also calls chords, the author helps transform life into a new experience of freedom, happiness and love. Miguel Ruiz proposes to deconstruct beliefs, cultural and educational conditioning, in other words to no longer distort reality. So what are these 4 Toltec agreements?
1. May your word be impeccable
In this first chord, Miguel Ruiz recalls how essential it is to have an impeccable speech. In other words, and that in all circumstances, each individual is invited to speak with integrity. The goal is to always say what you think but without hurting the sensitivity of others or your own. It is indeed important to realize the power of speech. The latter can reassure as well as destroy. So do not use it against others but rather in the sense of truth and love.
2. Whatever happens, don’t make it personal
“What others say and do is only a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to it, you are no longer a victim of unnecessary suffering.” writes Miguel Ruiz. Thus, in this second Toltec agreement, the author specifies that no one is the cause of the acts of others. You therefore do not have to feel targeted or directly concerned in the behavior of others. What others say and do is only a projection of their own reality, their dreams, their fears, their anger, their fantasies. So do not make it a personal matter since the events which occur are not always the consequence of your attitude.
3. Don’t make assumptions
Here it is about becoming aware that our assumptions are creations of our thought. As soon as a hypothesis becomes a belief (for example: he no longer loves me), it causes pressure behavior and is therefore harmful for human relationships but also for oneself. By making assumptions, you end up believing in them as if they were certainties when they are not. Just have the courage “to ask questions and express your true desires. Communicate clearly with others to avoid sadness, misunderstandings and drama.” advises Miguel Ruiz.
4. Always do your best
Finally, to achieve personal freedom, it is essential to always do your best. In life, there is no obligation to be successful, only to do your best. Your “best” obviously fluctuates depending on your circumstances and your experiences. By doing this, you will avoid judging yourself, feeling guilty and having regrets. Your self is in no way dependent on a standard. Try, undertake, try to make the best use of your abilities. Be kind to yourself. Accept that you are neither perfect nor always victorious.
A fifth chord
Note that in 2010, with the help of his son, Miguel Ruiz developed a fifth Toltec chord: Be skeptical, but learn to listen. In the latter, they believe that you should not believe yourself or others. For them it would be a question of using the force of doubt to question everything you hear. Listen to the intention behind the words and you will understand the real message.