Cheryl (not her real name) has been dating her boyfriend for two years. Until now, the young woman of 27 years was swimming in happiness. However, their relationship soured when she started gaining weight. “When we met I was 82 pounds but my weight has always fluctuated. As soon as we got together I put on weight. Now I’m 101 pounds,” she said in a letter sent to Deidre Sanders. The twenty-something, who is also the mother of a 3-year-old boy born from a previous relationship, admitted that her new physique bothered her boyfriend.
Cheryl must now undergo the reflections of her companion on her appearance. “He reminds me how beautiful I was before and wonders why I let myself go and why I do not act. I have already tried all the diets. The pounds fly away but come back just as quickly” lamented the young woman. This is not the first time that she has endured this kind of criticism: “I had a very violent and toxic relationship with the father of my son. He humiliated me so much because of my weight that I hated myself. I didn’t want to be here anymore, but I held on for my son and learned to love my body again. Unfortunately, that’s no longer the case.”
The expert encourages her to leave her boyfriend
For Deidre Sanders, there is no doubt that Cheryl must leave her partner: “Overeating is about finding comfort [in food] because of the hurtful remarks. And I’m worried because you’re with a man who brings you down. You you can do so much better. Somewhere there is someone who will encourage you and support you, but it’s not him.” The expert also motivated the young woman to take charge: “You can get back in shape by focusing on your diet and exercise. But do it for yourself, not for your partner.”