Getting married, starting a family, bringing everyone together under the same surname, is a custom that many couples continue to honor. However, it is not uncommon for new brides to want to keep their maiden name.
And when the family grows, it has also become more common to see the child take the name of both parents attached to each other. If the reasons for this choice are multiple, a young woman clearly signified her total aversion to the name of her future husband.
A mocking name
It was on a Reddit forum that an anonymous fiancée came to explain that she had decided to keep her own name after saying “Yes”, the last name of her spouse having, in English, a rather… horrible translation . “I absolutely refuse to give his surname to our children in any form,” she wrote. “Neither as is, nor with a hyphen. No way,” she insisted. The reason ? “His last name translates to ‘sour face’, ‘pitiful face’ or ‘miserable face’ (I don’t think there is a direct translation'” she noted, adding “I think he should be obviously I don’t want to call my children by a name like “Peter Miserable Face” and I don’t understand why giving them just my last name is a problem”.
Let the children choose
Because when the young fiancée broaches the thorny subject with her future husband, the latter sees in her reluctance, a “very bad sign” for their marriage, accusing her of being “disrespectful” for having refused to reach a compromise. “His ‘compromise’,” she noted, “is that we all choose a new last name which could also be his grandparents’ last name or his mother’s maiden name if he wants them to have his family history. On Reddit, she questioned other users to find out who, her future husband or her, was right. A question that has largely divided the online community. “The ‘compromise’ is not a real compromise if your surname only appears as a single letter” underlined a first person while a second proposed “cutting your surnames” to make a new one. A third added, “None of you want to compromise in any meaningful way. You both obviously value your names a lot and don’t recognize that the other person probably feels just as intensely about it as the other” advising them to “hyphenate and give your children the opportunity to choose later.