Love often clouds our judgment. This is all the more true when it comes to a crush that makes good or bad weather. It then becomes complicated to know if the feeling you feel is mutual. This is exactly the essence of this toxic love trend that is “breadcrumbing”. What is that ? It’s about giving you a few crumbs to give you hope for a serious relationship. This without your crush really investing or making any real effort to build the relationship.
The first sign to know if you are the victim of “breadcrumbing” is at the level of the actions of the other. Generally, his actions and his words diverge a lot. Its objective is to maintain your interest and make you hope without actually committing yourself. There are also contradictions in his communication. “He or she gives you just enough to make you think he or she is interested, followed by periods of complete silence to push you away. When the person senses they are losing you, they start giving you back. Pay attention until she senses you’re recommitted,” says marriage therapist Kimberly Panganiban.
He makes false plans for you
Excessive flirting is also a telltale sign that you are a victim of breadcrumbing. Here, your crush prefers talking to meeting and no date ever materializes. Then comes the false plans. It is almost impossible to arrange a meeting if you are the victim of “breadcrumbing”. Only, if it ever happens, expect false plans.
He will always have a good reason to cancel an appointment. The only exception is sex. If it’s just for a “sex plan”, then the appointment will take place. Let’s also add secrecy among the signs that you will have to pay attention to. “They intentionally keep you at a distance because they don’t want to get too close to you,” says Kimberly Panganiban.